As long as you are searching for your “forever” person, you are never going to find them. Because “forever” people aren’t found.
Forever isn’t just a status you lock down on your eighth date when they answer fifty questions correctly or do thirty-three micro things right.
It isn’t the prize you earn for keeping your abs toned and your hair highlighted and for using the exact right flirty emoji every single time.
Forever is never a guarantee – in any relationships, for any two people, ever.
Because forever isn’t something you find in somebody else. It’s something that you build as a team.
Forever happens through a series of choices that two people make – day in and day out, for as long as they’re invested in loving each other. Forever happens through the conscious act of choosing each other – through every fight, every trial, every wholly unglamorous bump in the road that makes both of you want to run for the hills.
Forever isn’t about a magical sense of compatibility that save you from any future trials. It’s the ongoing commitment to keep choosing each other. Through every challenge. Through every struggle. Through every argument, that pushes your limits.
Forever happens one day at a time.
There ‘s nothing magical, mystical or incredulous about meeting your “forever person”. Because you’re never going to meet someone who can guarantee forever right away.
But if you’re willing to put in some damn hard work, you might just be able to build a forever from scratch.